Using Law of Attraction In Relationships to Make Your Spouse Change His/Her Ways

Continuing the series on clearing up Law of Attraction misconceptions…

Misconception #4 – Law of Attraction can help me to have a healthy relationship by making my husband/wife change his/her ways.

The idea that you can use Universal Law of Attraction to change other people is one of the biggest misconceptions.  Law of Attraction creates YOUR reality in response to YOUR thoughts.  It is not a magic tool that you can use to make other people line up with your thinking.  Moreover, you haven’t realized your life purpose if you are in the mindset that your problems are somehow the fault of others.

Can your understanding of Law of Attraction result in a happier marriage for you? Of course it can.  However, you will do this by changing your outlook not by changing your spouse.  If you’re running around thinking angry thoughts, it is highly likely that your negative vibration will rub off on your partner.  And vice versa.  So, although you cannot change him or her, there is enormous benefit in changing what you give your attention to.

If you continue to focus on the negatives and expect your partner to make changes in order to make you feel better, you WILL be disappointed.  Remember, you are in control of how you feel.

You may want to read my Law of Attraction Relationship Advice article for practical guidance on this matter, but I’ll offer an example here.

Sally has been married for 6 years, but divorce seems imminent.  When she was dating Joe, everything was great.  They laughed at each other’s jokes, had romantic dinner dates, called each other during the work day, had a phenomenal sex life, and seemed to want the same things for their future.  However, nothing is the same now.

Sally feels neglected because her husband spends more time at work than at home.  She believes that he is not dedicated enough to his family because they spend so little quality time together.  She is so angry about the lack of romance that she withholds sex and yells at her husband for being so insensitive.  She has put on weight since having children and doesn’t like the way Joe looks at her body.

So, how can Sally use an understanding of the Universal Laws of Attraction to turn their relationship around?  She can start with this simple piece of relationship advice– change your thoughts about the relationship (and about your partner).

Here are some new thoughts that can help Sally to change her outlook:

I am lucky to have a husband who is such a hardworking man.

I remember the time we….

My husband can be so much fun.

I look beautiful at any weight and I’m perfectly capable of dropping the pounds if I want to.

I respect him for working so hard to support our family.

It’s really great when we make love.

I really do love my husband.

Joe’s position is that he works so much because his job is very demanding.  His career is very important to him and he is resentful that his wife is not understanding.  He’s so frustrated with the nagging and arguing that he stays at work late even if he doesn’t have to.  He’s contemplating infidelity because other women make him feel wanted, accepted, and attractive.  He is a little bothered by his wife’s extra weight and he’s tired of her constantly claiming to be on a diet.  He feels that she should be content with her life since all she has to do is stay home with the kids every day.

Here are some new thoughts that can help Joe to change his outlook:

I’m lucky to have a wife who stays home to nurture our children.

I remember how much fun we use to have.

I love it when she tells silly jokes—she has a great sense of humor.

I understand how she must miss me when I’m away all of the time.

I respect her for enduring the bodily changes that come when you bare a child.

I love and accept myself without any need for validation.

It is normal for married couples to have differences.

The idea is to look for thoughts that help you to  feel better now–stop waiting on the other person to change.  Both spouses can concentrate on remembering the good ole days… the days before the relationship was drowning in expectations. In most cases, one person will have to take the lead on this.

If you approach healing a relationship with the belief that your partner must try as hard as you, you’ll limit yourself.  Watching for changes in your partner will only frustrate you because you don’t have power over that.  Concentrate solely on making yourself feel better.  Take FULL responsibility for your feelings.

As you offer positive thoughts, Law of Attraction will respond with more thoughts that match these improved thoughts.  This will make you feel better and better, so pay attention to the rise of your internal vibration.  As positive thoughts become your dominant thoughts, matching circumstances will manifest in your life.  The matching circumstances may be anything from a complete transformation of your marriage to a divorce and perfect new spouse.  However, don’t lose sight of the fact that your “work” is to trust the perfection of the Universe and enjoy life as your unrealized desire is unfolding.
Law of Attraction Misconception Series Posts

Law of Attraction Misconception 1

Law of Attraction Misconception 2

Law of Attraction Misconception 3

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