Why It Seems Easier to Keep Feeling Bad… and How to Shake It Off
You may have noticed that when you feel bad, it’s much easier to wallow in the way you feel than it is to snap out of it. In fact, things that you normally enjoy may annoy you when you’re in a bad mood.
That song that you usually dance to may make your head hurt. Your spouse’s voice, children’s laughter, and even the chirping of birds may drive you up the wall. The one thing that feels natural to you at such a time may be complaining about your circumstances with someone who shares your gloomy disposition or someone who will join you in a negative rant.
But why is it so much easier to keep feeling bad when you’re in a bad mood? Why is it so ridiculously hard to just snap out of it? A big part of the answer lies in the not-so-glamorous side of Universal Law of Attraction.
When you’re feeling down and out, you’re currently attracting thoughts that match your “negative vibration.” This is the Law of Attraction in action. Like attract like. It is easy to sustain your bad mood because you’re attracting supporting thoughts that match that unpleasant feeling.
From this state of mind, you don’t have access to thoughts of a much higher (positive) vibration; therefore, you are irritated by those things that would usually bring you joy. The thoughts that are easily flowing to you are those that match what you do NOT want. You’re in the perfect situation to spiral further downward, thus allowing more negative circumstances into your life.
If you’re starting to worry that you’re powerless to change the way that you feel, stop the panic. There is a way out of this trap. The solution lies in conscious awareness of your emotions.
If you want to improve your mood, simply find a thought that feels better than the ones you’ve been thinking. The Universe will support your efforts by sending matching thoughts at every level of improvement.
If you’ve ever dragged yourself from the bed on a day that you felt awful, think back about the feeling of relief. It may have been awful getting up, but you felt at least a tiny bit better once you made the decision to get moving. Throughout the day, you likely felt even better. However, you wouldn’t have progressed at all if you had stayed in bed feeling crappy.
It is almost impossible to leap from depression to joy, but you can experience relief by changing your vibration from depression to anger. And once you’re feeling the slightly higher thought vibration of anger, it becomes easier to move towards a feeling of disappointment.
From the improved, although still negative, feeling of disappointment, you are in a better place to access thoughts of frustration. The key here is to experience emotional improvements without pressuring yourself to make a huge jump to feelings of elation. Realize that you’re in control of the positive changes that you are making and find solace in this.
When you notice that you’re feeling frustrated, give your attention to something that will help you to feel less frustrated. Force yourself to color a picture, complete a puzzle, take a nap, walk your dog, or watch a funny movie. By continuing to reach for thoughts that feel a little better, you will move up to feelings of hopefulness, satisfaction, positive expectation, and….eventually…..joy.
What I always try to remember is that, although it may feel easier to stay in a negative place, such a choice does not align with the goals that I have for my life.
If I feel depressed, the very last thing I will do is contact a depressed friend. If I’m unpleasantly surprised about something I heard on the radio, I resist the temptation to spend an hour discussing it with colleagues. If I’m stood up for a date, I don’t spend time writing a journal entry about being distraught.
Of course I sometimes get bothered by bad customer service, political moves that I don’t agree with, my teenager’s moody moments, and many other things. However, I’ve learned to move past those negative feelings so that the majority of my life is spent in a place of happiness.
The next time you feel a bad mood coming on, I hope you’ll start the process of gradual relief rather than wasting your life on that which does not please you. Life is short. Live it. Love it. Enjoy it.
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thanks !! very helpful post!
In my opinion, bad mood tends to arise out of soome kind of inner tension… which oftentimes originates when we’re at odds with ourselves or our surroundings. When I get such a mood, I try to spend a little time with myself and understand my own feelings. It usually words!
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I’m currently trying to climb out of a deep hole of negativity. Trying to move in a positive direction. I’m glad you made this post.
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