Comments on: Peer Pressure and Conformity: Do You Fear Standing Out from the Crowd?

By: Victoria

Victoria — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 02:16:07 +0000

Peer Pressure… who needs it?
Found myself a patch of land, with lots of trees, and have been living hermitude.
Recently encountered a human who thought I had all the makings of a “Cat Lady”…yes.. the kind that lives by herself with upteen cats.
I actually chuckled loudly and told him I preferred the term eccentric.
Guess I have somewhat shucked the binds of conforming…. ?
Was also recently asked if I ever get lonely.
Had to repeat myself when I answered “no”.
She need not want to believe me.
Hermitude is allowing me a true grasp of myself; who I am, not what others have shifted off on me.
Yes, I know…. many people are not as blessed as I am; to have the freedom of Hermitude. Yet, my soul knew what I needed most.
Thanks for the article/share, and for allowing room for my input.
Really enjoying your site!!

By: Aaron Darko

Aaron Darko — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 19:42:45 +0000

Hi Nea, I love your site – this is the first time I’ve seen it.

Found it from a post at kikolani.com You are so right with the conformity bit. Have you heard the strangest secret by Earl Nightingale?

He says that the biggest problem in society today is conformity. Most people are conforming to be like the next person without knowing why, without knowing where they are going. The opposite of conformity is courage and thats what everyone in this community has.

I love what you are doing here. I beleive that there needs to be more people who are ready to step out of their comfort zone – get rid of their fear and do something great to make a difference in the world.

As Will Smith says ‘If you are not making somebody elses life better, then you are wasting your time’

Thanks again for the post Nea – I will be coming here regularly!

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By: Marko @ CalmGrowth

Marko @ CalmGrowth — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 22:20:23 +0000

“Discover who you really are. And don’t be afraid to present that person to the world.” – I agree with you.

If someone asks you to behave in a certain way, and you feel that you do not want, it’s a difference of opinion. That is OK, all people are different and development of human beings would not be possible without it, without different opinions.
But if someone puts pressure on you to behave a certain way and succeed in this, it is manipulation. It is not good. It limits growth.

We should have courage to show to people what we are, who we are, regardless of others’ opinions.

Why many fail in this?
It is always easier to criticize, then to risk and act.

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:00:41 +0000

Boris, you bring up an excellent point. Many people in the blog world shy away from disagreeing with the author. I even noticed it on my own blog with posts that I thought were a bit controversial & likely to ruffle feathers.

I think it is healthy to offer a different point of view. How else could we learn from each other?

I’m happy to know that there are others who offer an honest opinion–even when that means you cannot tell a person exactly what they want to hear.

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 01:52:57 +0000

Autonomy…. a word that I love. Thanks for your comments Amit.

By: Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice

Amit Sodha - The Power Of Choice — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:30:57 +0000

Very well said Nea and you couldn’t be more right! I believe you have to start thinking for yourself and be a true leader and lets others, through the power of autonomy, find their own way.

By: Boris

Boris — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 03:45:54 +0000

Nea,
Your post is right! We all have experienced the pressure of the society and its rules… And one of the places where I have found more people trying to please everybody is in the blogs’ world: Most of the people leave positive comments to posts that really don’t deliver any valuable or original message!
My way of protesting against this approach? Sometimes in my blog, I disagree with great thinkers of leaders!
All the best,

Boris

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:37:28 +0000

I couldn’t agree with you more, Walter. You have a very deep and insightful understanding of this.

It is indeed our identification with the physical that leads to the delusional thinking & decision-making. There is no real reason why we must all fit in and please another.