Comments on: What Love is Not – A Life Lesson on Attachment, Infatuation, and Lust

By: Johnathan Borrow

Johnathan Borrow — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 08:59:05 +0000

Keep posting stuff like this i really like it, Good job My friend

By: Gisele

Gisele — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 11:35:15 +0000

Very insightful, Nea. Your blog is one of the few I have seen that offers compassionate realistic information, and not just a hard sell for lonely people. As a caring health care professional for over 30 years – Kudos to you!

By: Fatima

Fatima — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 14:18:49 +0000

Hi Nea, I have a question for you. Long story short the longest relationship I was in lasted for 10 years then we separated and went our own ways. Since that relationship I don’t think I have ever healed because I find myself in unhealthy relationship attachments based on what you have described above. I’m one of those people who have grown addicted to the feeling of new love and once the feeling has gone then I feel this emptiness and want to move on to receive that new love feeling again. I also a person who, even don’t I don’t care to believe it, I know it is true, that I depend on a person to make me feel loved and I have the need and desire to control and along with that I like to feel like I’m winning the person over. For example in my crazy mind if I’m not accessible to my love and I make it so he has to go all out of his way to get me or spend time with me then I feel as though I have him right where I want him. The thing is I don’t understand why I do this or why I’m drawn to the feelings of wanting and needing the new love feeling. But what else is crazy is that I also long to be in a healthy long term committed relationship based on a foundation of true love without the attachment & other issues. Even after reading what is said, I still don’t know how to correct my problem. Go ahead tell me I need psychological help or some type of extensive counseling. What do you suggest Nea from what I have told you?

By: rickkgoh

rickkgoh — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:01:55 +0000

If a couple really love each other, There’s would not have the urge to find lust from third party. Most today’s teenager do not know the difference between lust and love as they are still in the curiosity state of mind. So any teenager reading this article, take time and think, is it true love or lust?

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 15:38:38 +0000

I’m so glad you found some inspiration in this article. I know that you’ll find the courage to love yourself enough to make the right decision about your relationship.

By: winnie

winnie — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:49:15 +0000

I was very moved by your post and feel that I was probably in ‘attachment’ for some time last year, what i have discovered although I love this man unconditionally, I realized I can take away that list of yours and I feel that all of that is now about “ME”
thanks so much for posting, I found you while stumbling and will add your link to my site. Looking forward to many more.

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 01:27:06 +0000

So true, Walter. Lust can leave us under the illusion that we’re in love.

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 01:26:21 +0000

25…. your insight is definitely appreciated. Thanks for sharing.

By: NeaJ

NeaJ — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 01:24:37 +0000

What a perfect addition to the article, Jonathan. Thanks so much.

By: Walter

Walter — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 08:00:30 +0000

Love has been misinterpreted these days. Most are commonly anchored on lust; once it’s consumed, the so-called love falters. It is important to know the true reason behind loving someone.