“I don’t care what people think of me.” How many times have you heard those words? How many times have said it yourself? More importantly, how true is it?
Considering all that we learn about peer pressure as children, it’s not surprising that we grow up trying desperately to appear immune to the thoughts an opinions of others. As adults, many of us find it so very hard to admit that we crave validation and support. But then there’s the truth.
We do indeed care, at least to some extent, what people say and think about us. None of us truly wears a thick, impenetrable skin that protects our hearts from the pain of feeling left out or misjudged.
When It Hurts the Most
You may have noticed that there are certain things people can say about you that don’t matter at all; whereas other subjects bother you much more than you can shamelessly admit. The latter topics are your triggers and there’s a reason for their existence.
So, what gets under your skin? What really, really puts you on the defensive?
Think about a time when someone criticized you or expressed a particular opinion that really angered or hurt you. Maybe they said you were ignorant, fat, naive or selfish. Maybe they said something negative about your political standing, parenting skills, work performance or religious faith. If you found yourself feeling torn between two hopelessly ineffective options: pretending not to care versus lashing out in defense of your turf, this is likely a trigger for you. [Keep reading What People Think...]
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Have you ever made a change that you knew would bring extreme satisfaction and joy into your life, only to find yourself hugely disappointed?
Maybe, in the pursuit of happiness or fulfillment, you bought a new home, divorced your nagging wife, quit the job you hated, or chose a new best friend. You did what you thought had to be done, but you didn’t get what you thought you would get. The magic you expected to come along with the change either didn’t show up or it didn’t last.
The story is anything but unique, my friends. It happens to the best of us! But why? Change is what makes the world go ‘round? Right? Right! Well, sometimes right.
Just like all action is not right action, all change is not right change. When we make major life changes, it is usually motivated by a desire for some form of prosperity—be it emotional, physical, financial or otherwise. So, it’s important to take a deeper look at what we bring to the circumstances in life that we wish to change. [Keep reading Why Change...]
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Place Yourself In The Presence Of Great Energy
Feng Shui is literally wind-water. But what exactly does that mean? An ancient Chinese art and also a science, it is over 3000 years old. It deals with balancing the energy that exists in any space. Practitioners of Feng Shui believe that not only the health but also the fortune of people can be positively affected through the proper practicing of the art.
Because the Chinese culture teaches that both wind (feng) and water (shui) have an effect on health, good feng shui has come to be associated with good fortune, while bad feng shui represents misfortune.
There is energy everywhere, according to the ancient Chinese. Chi refers to the universal energy that is in all spaces. This energy is not only outside, but it is inside every building, including each room of our houses. It is also an energy that is within every living person.
This chi is shown by different colors and shapes. It is believed that by the proper placement of these entities, we can positively affect our lives. This energy is constantly flowing throughout our homes. Through the careful placement of colors and shapes, it is believed that we can alter our very existences.
Because we can never escape the energy that surrounds us, it is imperative that we surround ourselves with the great energy that will lead to our good fortune. Just how do we do this? There are many different ways to place ourselves in the presence of great energy, and we will look at just a few. [Read More Feng Shui...]
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