On this beautiful Monday, I feel compelled to remind you that, no matter where you are on your journey right now, all is well.

You have the support of the entire Universe; therefore, wherever you are, there is boundless opportunity for joy. All that you have or don’t have, all that you know or don’t know, all that you are—is absolutely enough. Enough to make magic and to create the life of your dreams.

I offer this perspective in hopes that you will take it as your own, trusting that this powerful belief is the precursor to manifesting the “stuff” your dreams are made of.

I don’t know exactly what you desire or what would bring you joy; but I do know that joy is your birthright. I know that you need only to tap into it, to release any resistance, to allow the manifestation of it, to go with the flow of it.

Life, I believe, is like a stream—flowing perfectly, confidently, serenely and always in the right direction. Flowing unconditional love, happiness, light, peace of mind.

As a living, breathing reflection of the Source that lives within you; you can never stray away from this stream. That is the miracle here. Your best life is never out of reach.

Now, I must say that I, of all people, know how untrue this can feel. When times are tough, life feels more like falling off a cliff than flowing effortlessly in a stream. But I want to share with you a perspective that has helped me to change my life.

No matter how far you feel that you are from your “happy place” or how much you believe you have strayed from your path, you remain one with the stream.  No action, inaction, choice or mistake can ever change that. All you ever need to do is figure out how to go with the flow.

Should you find yourself feeling separate from the stream, realize that this is an illusion. Thoughts and beliefs that don’t serve you can resist the stream, which feels very much like separateness. But there is no true separation. You are in the stream and the stream is in you.

By “swimming” against it’s current, you may cause yourself unnecessary pain. Yet, that pain is only a message. It is a message from your Higher Self that calls you back downstream, summoning you to go with the flow. Every emotion lower than joy is a reminder of this message.

To honor the message and to flow with the stream, let go of what holds you back. Let go of what fear wants you to do. Turn away from what resentment, scarcity, doubt and anxiety want you to do. These are all forms of resistance…and you know what happens when you resist (or work against) a current.

The stream of life is there for you and it can perfectly support you in living your best life. Why not allow it to do so?

If you’re holding on to some stick in the mud while the stream is flowing you forward, just let go. Go with the flow. If you’re thrashing about and swimming with all your might, just let go. Go with the flow.

In the flow, miracles happen. Love, success and accomplishments happen. Relationships evolve. Success takes on new meaning. Joy becomes the “way” rather than the occasional outcome.  Storms pass you by. Rainbows seem more vibrant. The sun shines on you even when the whole world seems cloudy. Hearts heal. Minds relax. Lives change forever.

Will you go with the flow?

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Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

“It’s choice–not chance–that determines your destiny.” Jean Nidetch

What could be more inspiring than knowing for sure that YOU WILL live your destiny? Perhaps very few things, aside from knowing that you also CHOOSE that destiny.

You are not a slave to some static, predetermined outcome that’s completely out of your control. That is, unless you think you are. Other than your core destiny, which is simply to be, you are without limitation.

You can be happy or sad, aware or naive, dreadful or zestful, rich or poor. Your destiny is multidimensional, flexible, dynamic, and—most importantly—determined solely by you.

If you ever question the significance of your being, simply remember that your thoughts are among the most powerful magnetic forces in the Universe. Because of you—a magnet to whatever you choose to believe— so very much is possible. What might you attract with that magnetism today? Tomorrow? Throughout your life?  Will it be joy, peace, knowledge, prosperity? What about kind people, fun experiences, deep love, amazing opportunities? You need only to put it out if you want to receive it.

If you stand for kindness, offer a kind attitude even to those who aren’t so kind to you. If it is prosperity that’s of importance to you, exhibit mental prosperity and share as generously as you can with others. No kind thought or generous action is in vain. Reciprocation IS your destiny. What will be reciprocated to you?

Everyday is one ripe with opportunities to choose your destiny by living your destiny. Will you face the world with a positive disposition, drawing nearer and nearer the best life experiences possible? Will you find something to be thankful for even on the darkest days, thereby brightening the world with your very own internal sunshine?

It is my wish for you that, if nothing else, you realize your own empowerment over your life. May you never forget that you were born 100% equipped with the tools you need to choose the destiny you desire.

Remember…It is that which you desire, not the lack of it, that deserves the power of your focused thoughts and beliefs. I hope that today’s inspirational thoughts have further inspired you to choose, attract, create and allow what is rightfully yours: Your destiny.

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If you have a moment, please share in the comment section what you plan to do with the power of your creative, magnetic thoughts today. How will you choose your destiny? How will you live your best life?

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Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

Vibrational frequency—it’s a strange term if you’re not very involved with the details of the Universal Law of Attraction.  But I’ll do my best to show you why it’s something you never want to forget.

Like most people, I spent the overwhelming majority of my life doing, doing, doing. Doing whatever I could to buy something, meet someone, go to some place or reach a goal of some sort.  Learning about the Universal Law of Attraction helped put me on a more promising track; but it wasn’t until I learned about the Law of Allowing that I began understanding why “doing” consumed nearly every moment of my life; whereas, major results (manifestations) seemed few and far between.

Now, I’m not about to tell you that you no longer need to do anything; but I do want to share with you the importance of vibrational frequency and the Law of Allowing.

The Law of Allowing & Law of Attraction: What’s the Difference

The basic premise of the Universal Law of Attraction has been used so many times by exploiters that it sounds a little cheesy.  But I’ll give a quickie definition for those who’ve never heard of the Universal Laws.  The Law of Attraction basically says that:

• You get what you think about
• You are the creator of your reality
• You can be, do and have anything you want

I admit, it sounds like a bunch of new age mumbo jumbo or excessive optimism; but that’s the problem when you’re putting together a puzzle while unknowingly missing the most important pieces.

Vibrational Frequency and the Law of Allowing are those missing pieces.

Before I continue, please jot down your answers to the following:

1) What are 5 things you really want?

2) What’s feeling or emotional benefit comes along with each of your answers in question 1 (i.e. contentment, safety, happiness, confidence, security)?

I’ll come back to the questions in a moment.

Why the Law of Allowing is Important

While the Law of Attraction describes the relationship between us and our thoughts; the degree to which each person reaps those benefits varies based on their ability to allow.  That’s right—not the ability to do—but the ability to allow.

Without an understanding of the Law of Allowing, your efforts—your doing—is often painfully consuming and fruitless.

So what is the Law of Allowing?

The simplest way I can describe The Law of Allowing is that it means getting out of your own way.  It means that what you ask for flows to you when you release the resistance (your resistance) that stands between you and manifestation of your desires.  Are you starting to see how you create your own reality?

What manifests in your life is always a “vibrational match” to what you’re allowing into your life experience. Confused yet?

Imagine for a second that you and everything around you have a certain vibrational frequency.  In order to allow the manifestation of your desires into your life experience, your vibrational frequency must match that of your desires.  If you’re emitting a low vibration, you are fully capable of changing it to tune into what you want.  But most people don’t deliberately offer any vibration at all.

Understanding Resistance

If you’re not a vibrational match to your desires, you are offering resistance, which holds you (vibrationally) apart from what you desire.

“I’m definitely not resisting what I want,” you might say.

Nobody thinks they are resisting manifestation; but there’s one thing to remember when it comes to the Universal Law of Attraction: When you ask, the Universe says yes.  Not sometimes, not when you ask for something feasible—but always.

From the moment you birth a new idea or desire, your job is to align yourself with the essence of that desire.  You may do this immediately or never.  It’s up to you.  This the allowing part of the Law of Attraction equation.  This is what it means to tune your vibrational frequency in to what you desire.

How do you know your vibrational frequency?

Take a look at your answer to question 2 above.  What is the feeling that you have (or expect to have) upon manifestation of your desires?  Maybe it’s love, comfort, or pleasure.  Whatever it is, this is the essence (or vibration) of your desire.  If you aren’t living, being and feeling that vibration; you are not in alignment with what you want.  You’re asking for something, the Universe wants to deliver it, but you aren’t tuned in to the vibrational frequency of that desire.  You are, once again, standing in your own way.

How about an example… Let’s say you spend most of your time focused upon what you do not yet have.  You work hard for it, you think about it, you plan for it, you talk about it.

No matter how hard you try to get there, you’re often left feeling dissatisfied, anxious, and frustrated.  This is resistance!

Types of Resistance

For many people, it is terribly difficult to accept that we are the creators of our own reality.  The first reaction is to say something like, “I tried that positive thinking crap and it just doesn’t work.”

With the tiniest amount of effort, you can easily convince yourself that you are not offering any resistance.  But that’s rarely (if ever) the case.

Resistance to manifestation comes in so many forms.  A few that you may recognize are:

• Focusing on what you don’t have
• Frustration with the pace of things
• Jealousy of someone who has what you want
• Self-doubt, a lack of faith in yourself and the powers of the Universe
• Fear
• Perfectionism
• Overworking/Trying too hard
• Obsessing over outcomes
• Listening to others who don’t believe in you
• Trying to force others to see things your way
• Focusing on what doesn’t go right
• Resenting the journey toward manifestation
• Complaining of failures (or what seems like failure)
• Judgment and complaining

These are all examples of resistance—getting in your own way, delaying or preventing the manifestation of your desires.

Allowing or Resisting: A Look in the Mirror

Take a look at your answer to question 1 above.  You should’ve named 5 things that you really want. Looking at that list of 5, how many do you already have just as you want them?  How many are you working on obtaining or achieving?

For most of us, the first “wants” that come to mind are things that we don’t have or things we aren’t quite satisfied with.  This alone is a recipe for resistance.  If you have legs to walk on, the ability to feed yourself, a warm place to sleep at night, a pet that adores you, a healthy child, food to eat, freedom, friends, or anything else worth appreciating; I’m sure you want these things.  Yet, they may not have come to mind when asked about your wants.  Think about the number of hours, minutes, or seconds of your day that are dedicated to fully experiencing and appreciating what you already have.  Now compare that to the time spent trying to get something else, something more, something different, something better.

Rethink What You’re Allowing

Most of us have become accustomed to dedicating the bulk of our energy to yearning after things we don’t yet have.  Maybe you’re saving money to buy a new car, working long hours to afford a bigger house, struggling to get out of debt or trying every diet possible to lose weight.  Whatever the case may be, it’s important to realize that you are not in a position of allowing when you’re yearning.  You’re a vibrational match to yearning, but not to manifestation of positive, joyful ,exciting outcomes.

From a state of resistance, you may sometimes get the new job or slimmer body that you desire; but the satisfaction will be short lived.  Maybe you’ll put the weight back on or the new job will turn out to be even worse than the one you left; or you’ll just find that you’re not getting the satisfaction that you expected to come along with this desire.  Again, you are in your own way.

Releasing Resistance

To allow Law of Attraction to work miracles in your life, practice the Law of Allowing. Allow yourself to come into perfect alignment with the vibrational frequency of what youdesire.  If financial independence would help you to feel happy and secure, focus intently on something in your life right now that gives you reason to feel that way. Can’t think of anything?  Close your eyes and visualize yourself in the safest place imaginable, floating on a cloud perfectly created for you or surrounded by the supportive arms of loving people.  Meditate on this and feel the positive vibration coursing through your veins.

Practice * Practice * Practice * Practice

This isn’t a one time thing.  In order to release resistance, change your point of attraction and experience the manifestation you’ve been waiting on; practice the Law of Allowing as many times as you can every day.

Make your life one that is about noticing and appreciating what you have.  Make time to write in a gratitude journal, call a friend to talk about the gifts in your life, write a thank you letter to the Universe, and watch happy movies.

There will always be “off moments” in your life, but the Universal Law of Attraction responds to the culmination of your thoughts.  Retrain yourself to think in a way that leaves you feeling the way you’d feel if everything you ever wanted manifested in this very moment.

Celebrate. Appreciate. Allow.

It’s comment time. Are you familiar with the Law of Attraction? What about the Law of Allowing? Are you aware of the ways in which you resist manifestation of your desires?

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Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

My friend, you are alive and awake today. What will you do with such an amazing gift?  You can take it for granted, convinced that you’ll get another and another and another.  Or you can give yourself a reason to celebrate life right now.

Before you waste a single moment hanging your head and griping about work, traffic or a fight with your spouse; open yourself to these inspirational thoughts.

Happiness is ALWAYS, even on a “bad” day, within your grasp.  But it won’t chase you down. To experience happiness in life, you must choose happiness day after day after day. There’s no better time to start than the present moment.

Stop whatever you are doing or thinking and take a moment to get happy about something right now.  Flowers, lakes, beaches, trees; your garden, pet, favorite scent; a warm embrace or a positive affirmation; the sun’s infinite rays or the smile of someone you love.

No matter how simple or complex it is, just think of something that brings you joy.  Now close your eyes and give it your undivided attention.

Using your emotions as your guide, allow your thoughts to transform this moment into one of sheer bliss.  Happy thoughts elevate your existence, for as long as you offer no resistance.

Stay with these happy thoughts and feelings for as long as you desire before opening your eyes, realizing that happiness is a state of mind that you can choose at anytime.

Going forward into your day, know that nothing and no one can stand between you and happiness in life.  Not your childhood or family, boss or spouse, media or government, financial status or living conditions.  You have the power to see anything in a new light.  You have the power to redirect your thoughts, thereby revitalizing your feelings and getting to happiness whenever you please.

Whatever hurts or angers, does not deserve your dominant focus.  Find something else to do, to talk about doing, or to think about doing.  Find someone different to talk with, to talk about, or to think about.

You can mope around feeling bored, hopeless or aggravated; or you can offer your attention to all that feels amazing.  Just remember, happiness in life is a day-to-day choice that only you can make for you. Choose it again and again.

Throughout this day and all others, remember that your thoughts are the powerful creators of your reality. Use them wisely, my friend. Focus intently on what brings you to happiness, knowingly attracting matching circumstances into your life.

Think happy thoughts. Celebrate happiness. Celebrate life.

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Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

Most of us never stop wanting to get more out of life.  And the more we understand how we create our reality–the more we realize that there is no reason we can’t live the life of our dreams.

If we grasp only one fragment of information about the Universal laws—one something that helps us to keep it all in perspective—perhaps it should be this:  The Universe says yes.  God says yes. Source Energy says yes. No matter what word you use to describe All-That-Is, the answer is the same: Yes.

When our lives aren’t panning out the way we desire, it is not because the Universe is saying no.  When we feel like we just can’t get more out of life, it is not because God is denying us.  We live in an inclusive Universe so the answer is always and forever YES.  Yes to you and yes to me.  Yes to us all.  The answer is yes to what we think. Yes to what we believe. Yes to all that we allow into our life experience.

Whether or not the yeses work out in your favor is up to you.  The laws of the Universe are consistent, so we never need to guess.  The response won’t change, thus we need only to shift what is being responded to. So, here’s the big question:  In your life, what is the Universe saying yes to?  What is the content of your asking?

Before you answer, take a look at some common thoughts and consider the result of the Universe’s response.

The thought: I wish I wasn’t sick all the time.

The Universe’s response: Yes to thoughts of sickness…yes to yearning for improved health

The thought: I really need to find a better job.

The Universe’s response: Yes to longing for fulfilling employment…yes to lack of a desirable job

The thought: It’s too bad I’m not a better parent.

The Universe’s response: Yes to dissatisfaction with parenting.

The thought: I want that new house more than anything

The Universe’s response: Yes to wanting, longing, yearning for that new house. Yes to the feeling of lack.

The thought: My life would be better if I was smarter

The Universe’s response: Yes to discontentment with life. Yes to less than desirable life experiences.

You see… your reality is created according to what you ask for and what you allow into your life. Of course  Universal Law of Attraction manifestation doesn’t occur immediately, but we all eventually experience the result of what we put out into the Universe.  In other words, the Universal laws are not working for or against you.  It is only YOU that is working for or against you.  You decide whether or not you get more out of life. The Universe simply complies.  And that compliance means something different for everyone.

So, when the Universe says yes to you, is that a yes to abundance or a yes to lack?  Is it a yes to wellness or a yes to lack of wellness?  Is it a yes to having or a yes to wanting?  Are you making the most of YES?

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Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

This week’s focus is on understanding Universal Law of Attraction.  It is my hope that self improvement success will flow to you more easily through an increased awareness of how we create our own reality. If you haven’t read Part 1 of this series, don’t miss out on the first 3 Universal Law of Attraction Myths.  The more information you have on applying Law of Attraction to your life—the better.

Law of Attraction Myth 4: Positive thinking about what you desire is required for manifestation of the desire

While positive thinking is key to attracting pleasing experiences, thinking positively about a particular subject is not a prerequisite for Law of Attraction manifestation.

Let’s say you desire a wonderful, romantic relationship.  However, you’ve had so many bad experiences with previous relationships that you have no faith in finding love.  In this situation, positive thinking about relationships may be difficult at best.  In fact, lying to yourself about your own beliefs may make you feel even worse.   So, what do you do?  The answer: start thinking positively about something else.

The subject matter of your thoughts isn’t nearly as important as the vibrational tone of your thoughts.   In other words, it is easier and more effective to manifest your desires by focusing on whatever feels good rather than trying to force yourself to feel good while focusing on something that you’re uptight about.

The Universal Law of Attraction exists for your benefit.  And the Universe knows what you want.  Now you simply need to allow manifestation.  You don’t have to think positive thoughts about money or relationships in order to attract them; but you do have to stop thinking counter-productive, negative thoughts that resist what the Universe is ready to manifest.

Law of Attraction Myth 5: It doesn’t matter what you feel, just what you think

Universal Law of Attraction responds to the vibration of our thoughts.  But how could we deliberately benefit from it without a way to determine our current thought vibration?  Luckily, we don’t have to worry about that.

Because of all the subconscious chatter that goes on within us, we’re not always aware of what we’ve been thinking. However, we are aware of how we feel.  This is why emotions, both positive and negative, are one of our greatest gifts.  They are powerful indicators of what we’re thinking, believing, and attracting.

When you feel good, you are in alignment with your desires.  A feeling of joy indicates that you are on the ideal path—you are attracting outcomes that will please you.  A feeling of sadness, on the other hand, is just as important.  When you feel sad, fearful, disappointed, or depressed, this is your cue to change your thoughts.

Still think feelings aren’t an important part of Law of Attraction? Without emotions as cues, how would you know when your point of attraction is resisting your desires?  How would you know when it’s time to shift your focus? Guessing maybe?  I don’t know about you, but I love the empowerment that comes with knowing what I’m creating—and being able to change it with my thoughts.

Law of Attraction Myth 6: It’s too much work to constantly control your thoughts

For most people, thinking is done on autopilot.  There is no effort to direct the thoughts, so the mind just wanders all over the place.

To the contrary, many newcomers to Law of Attraction teachings begin obsessing about every single thought.  They fret about accidentally creating disasters or attracting the content of random, crazy thoughts.  Well, guess what…worrying about controlling your thoughts is just as bad as thinking negative thoughts.

Nothing positive comes out of anxiously patrolling what goes on in the mind.  Yes, the Universe does respond to the vibration of our thoughts; but this is real life.  You don’t just wiggle your nose and poof… the magic carpet sweeps you into the air.  A fleeting thought of an angry bear in your living room, will not cause the grizzly to show up.

It is okay to daydream.  It is okay for your mind to drift into la-la land sometimes.  It is even okay to have strange, scary, sad or outrageous thoughts.  Just don’t stay there.

When you realize that you’ve been thinking something undesirable, gently guide yourself towards a thought that feels better.  Be patient with yourself and realize that it is the culmination of your thoughts that creates your reality.  It is the dominant thoughts that create your beliefs.  And it is your beliefs that allow (or resist) manifestation.

Nobody’s mind is filled with positive thoughts 100% of the time. But an overall positive mental attitude is sure to attract positive life experiences.

Do you think applying Law of Attraction principles is a valuable self improvement technique? What experiences have you had with this Universal law?

Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

If you have any connection to the outside world, you’ve heard of the Universal Law of Attraction. Bookstores, web sites, and self improvement seminars are overflowing with information about it.  Nonetheless, there are still so many misconceptions about how our thoughts create (or attract) our reality.

Whether you’re a walking, talking Law of Attraction success story or someone who’s been disappointed by exaggerated claims and Law of Attraction myths, I hope you’ll find value in taking a deeper look at the misunderstandings that lead many to believe this Universal law is nothing more than a gimmick.

Law of Attraction Myth 1: If you think about something long enough, it will definitely happen

This myth is an exaggeration, though not a total lie.  If I sit here and focus on skittles falling from the sky, there’s very little chance that we’ll experience skittle rain.  However, something of a similar thought vibration will manifest.

I may suddenly start to become aware of skittles everywhere—on the concrete where children have dropped them, in a co-worker’s cubicle, on the counter at the grocery store.  Alternatively, I may not see skittles at all.  I may start to experience events that give me the same feeling that I get when focusing on skittles raining from the sky—joy, amazement, child-like excitement.

Law of Attraction Myth2: Everything you think about will manifest without any work on your part

The Universal Law of Attraction is constantly at work in our lives, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do anything other than think.

When you are thinking about a desire and focused upon the joyful feeling of manifestation, you’re in perfect alignment with what you want.  However, this desire may manifest in different forms.

You may attract wonderful ideas on what ACTION needs to be taken in order to bring you closer to the goal.  You may attract people that will assist you and circumstances that are favorable to your success.  You may find yourself in the right places at the right time.  This is all wonderful, but notice that it doesn’t mean you just lean back in a recliner and watch life happen to you as you imagine it.  What fun would that be anyway?

Law of Attraction Myth 3: Law of Attraction is an easy way to get rich

Although you can definitely manifest money and attract riches into your life, it’s misleading to tout Law of Attraction as some type of tool that you use to make this easy.  What we attract into our lives is based on our dominant thoughts and beliefs—and most people wouldn’t say it’s easy to change those.

Let’s say you spent your entire life believing that it is difficult to generate riches or acquire great wealth.  Maybe you developed your beliefs about abundance by hearing your parents repeatedly say things like, “Money doesn’t grow on trees” or “some people just have all the luck.”  Over the years, you made those thoughts your own and you held onto them until they became powerful beliefs that created matching circumstances in your life.

Considering that you’ve put a great deal of thought and energy into creating these beliefs, do you really believe you will release them within an instant?  Will a few positive thoughts about wealth change what you’ve believed for decades?

Law of Attraction will not revise your beliefs about money. That is your work. But this Universal law does make it possible for you to attract abundance once your beliefs are in alignment with it.

If manifesting money is your dream, don’t be discouraged when it doesn’t happen immediately.  Appreciate what you CAN do immediately.  In this moment, you can begin softening your outlook on finances, thus allowing money to flow into your experience in accordance with the development of your newly held beliefs.

I’ll publish part 2 of this series on Law of Attraction myths on Thursday.  Meanwhile, I look forward to learning about your experiences with applying Law of Attraction principles.

Have you experienced success or disappointment in attracting your desires? What are your feelings in general about the Universal Law of Attraction? Have you been discouraged by myths or exaggerations of this Universal law?

Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

Have you ever been in a situation so negative that positive thinking seemed like a complete joke?  Do you ever have difficulty keeping a positive mental attitude?  Don’t worry—everyone feels that way sometimes.  So, what I’d like to offer here are a few easy positive thinking tips that help me get back on track when life throws a curve ball in my direction.

• Relax With Breathing Meditation

The quickest way to release tension and worry, thus preparing your mind for positive thinking, is a simple meditation technique.  Go to a quiet, comfortable room.  Close your eyes and center your attention on your breathing.

In times of stress, you’ll likely notice that you are taking shallow breaths into your throat or barely breathing at all.  So, deliberately take slow, deep breaths.  Notice the natural rise and fall of your chest.  If your mind drifts to random thoughts, just refocus on your breathing.

With your attention focused on breathing instead of problematic circumstances, you will release anxiety and enable your mind to refocus.  No, this won’t make the problem go away.  It won’t dramatically change your future in an instance.  But you will experience relief.  You will slowly begin to realign with a positive vibration that attracts positive thoughts and experiences.

• Practice Mindfulness and Appreciation

After releasing anxiety through breathing meditation, it’s time to practice conscious awareness of all that is good.  I personally like to step outside for this mindfulness exercise, but there is just as much to appreciate indoors.

Open your mind to sensations of all types—sounds, smells, tastes, feelings, sights. You may notice bird songs, the brightness of the sunshine, cloud shapes, heat or cool air against your skin, children’s laughter, the steady beat of your heart, and so much more.

Realize how wonderful it is that these things exist and that you are experiencing them.  Give your attention to each one for a moment.  And embrace that moment with thoughts of appreciation.  Isn’t it wonderful that you have functioning eyes and the gift of literacy so that you can read this article right now?

When we are mindful, we open ourselves to an amazing amount of positive energy.  We see just how much we usually take for granted.  We embrace our oneness with the Universe and with all-that-is. And we experience the abundance that exists whether we are aware of it or not.

• Journal the Positive Aspects

If there is a certain circumstance that is clouding your reality, challenge yourself to find the positive aspects.  This exercise, which I learned from Abraham Hicks, is an awesome way to bring you back to that happy place.  Here’s how it works:

If you typically write in a journal, open it to a blank page. Otherwise, just grab a notepad.  Write at the top of a page, “My Book of Positive Aspects.”  On the next line, write “Positive aspects of ________________.”  On that blank, put the name of something (or someone) that is very easy for you to speak positively about.  It may be your spouse, pet, car, hobby, or anything else that brings you joy.  Now, write line after line of positive aspects about him, her, or it. Keep writing as long as it flows.

Now repeat this process for a second person, place, thing, or situation that is easy to feel good about.  You’ll notice that your mood is taking a step up.  Your mind is now prepared for the more challenging part of this process.

On another blank page, write “Positive aspects of ___________________.”  This time, what you’ll put in the blank is the circumstance that has been troubling you.  On the lines that follow, you will write positive aspects related to this part of your life experience.

It’s a bit of an extreme example, but let’s say the doctor has just decided that your leg must be amputated.  You may write positive aspects about your body, such as, “The overwhelming majority of my body is functioning perfectly; this procedure will allow me to remain alive and to enjoy time with my family; my body still has arms and hands to touch and hug; leg-amputees have run marathons and I can be just as limitless.”  None of this reattaches the leg to your body.  However, it beats the hell out of feeling depressed and powerless.

Can you see the immense benefits of these positive thinking techniques? The purpose is not to fool yourself with falsehoods in order to feel better.  With these techniques, you naturally achieve a feeling of relief through conscious awareness of the reality that you were overlooking.

As you go through your day, challenge yourself to see more than whatever is apparent at first glance.  Remember that joy is your birthright. You need only to relax your thoughts and allow it into your experience.

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Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

A wonderful personal development blogger, Stephen Mills, wrote a blog post series titled, The Science of Fear.  This resonated with me in a powerful way because I believe that fear is the most toxic element in our environment today.  It destroys more lives than terrorists, chemical weapons, ozone gases, carcinogens, ultraviolet rays, fast food, wars, and drugs all put together.

Facing and Acknowledging Fear

Fear comes in so many packages.  I’m sure you recognize some of the most common types of fear:

• Fear of disappointing others
• Fear of illness
• Fear of death
• Fear of not fitting in
• Fear of poverty
• Fear of losing
• Fear of powerlessness
• Fear of failure

These fears have power over the lives of many people throughout the world, often without their knowledge of it.

An angry fighter may not know that he is subconsciously driven to violence by fear.  A woman who uses her sexuality to manipulate men may not be consciously aware that she is insecure and deeply afraid of powerlessness.  A demanding cult leader may not realize that he is obsessed by a deep fear of losing control.  People who conform to cultural, religious, or societal norms may not know that they have a fear of not fitting in with the crowd.

Unfortunately, those who have yet to acknowledge the role of fear in their life are highly unlikely to manifest positive change.

Law of Attraction and Fear

By Law of Attraction, that which is like unto itself is drawn.  So, what do you think is drawn to you when you live in fear?

Well, fear is a very low vibration emotion. Therefore, thoughts and circumstances of a similarly low vibration are allowed into your life experience when you entertain fear.  In other words, fear-based thinking attracts situations that result in disappointment, frustration, anger, depression, and even more fear.

Here’s an example: If you have a fear of weight gain, your negative point of attraction may draw unto you experiences; such as, digestive problems, feelings of guilt after eating, lack of interest in nutrient-rich foods, excessive preoccupation with food, and body image/self esteem issues.

At some point this downward spiral that started with fear will manifest exactly what you feared—weight gain—plus a range of equally undesirable issues. You didn’t intend to attract the negatives, but your fear focused on the undesirable outcomes and created resistance to what you really want.

The Power of Negative Emotion

Because emotions are indicators of your thoughts and your point of attraction, there is some benefit to feeling fear.  A negative emotion is a message from your Inner Self that lets you know when your thoughts are not in alignment with your desires.

It is somewhat like a weather warning.  The fear beeps in to let you know that you’re thinking in a way that allows/attracts stormy conditions.  After all, you wouldn’t feel fear if your thoughts were on smiling babies, sunny days, happiness, and the outpouring of love.  You feel fear because you are listening to negative news, placing your beliefs in statistics that have impacted others, focusing on negative “what ifs,” feeling vulnerable, and forgetting your ability to create your own reality.

A Logical Approach to Fear

In The Science of Fear, Stephen discussed his very logical and analytical approach to reducing fear.  He evaluates situations based on their likelihood of occurrence and only worries about those for which he believes there is a significant (approx. 1 in 4 chance) risk.

That means no more worrying about dying via airplane accidents, food chemicals, or shark attacks.  I love this idea for lessening the impact of fear, but I would like to take it even further.

Positive Awareness and Living in the Now

Like many people, I’ve overcome some dreadful experiences in my life.  But it wasn’t until I began practicing conscious living that I learned how to lessen the fear that dwelled within me after the fact.  So, what is my personal solution for fear?  I practice living in the now—remaining conscious and appreciative of the present moment. And I’ll provide a few examples of how you can use this principle to overcome fear in your life.

Let’s say you were just diagnosed with a disease that kills 95% of the people who contract it.  Statistically, the odds are stacked against you; but no statistician ways in the effects of a positive, powerfully-focused, creative mind.  You are alive in this moment, so you have choices on how to approach the situation.

Choice #1:  You can become so afraid of the prognosis that you give up on life.  You can curse the doctors, blame God, and feel angry at yourself for not taking preventative measures. You can focus on the mistakes you’ve made, painful medical procedures, the causes that led to your illness, the sad look in your family’s eyes, and the unfairness of it all.  This is a fear-based response, which will leave you drowning in a sea of negative thought vibrations that strongly resist healing.

Choice #2: You can look for and focus on the bright side.  5% of the people who’ve contracted this disease in the past have survived.  And you are, in the present moment, surviving.  You can bless every healthy cell in your body, thus influencing them to multiply.  You can increase your awareness of the good in your life by pointing out every single thing that brings you joy.  If you can breathe easily, give thanks for your lungs.  If you have family at your side, appreciate their support.  If you can walk, be fully aware of how wonderful it is to have this capability.  This is a powerful response that attracts the manifestation of what you want by focusing on it without regard for its opposite.

Fear has a 0% chance of improving your life and a 100% chance of making you feel worse, so consider those odds when choosing your approach.

Overcoming Fear for Self Development

The next time you’re faced with scary information, just remember that well-being (both physical and emotional) is your birthright.  You are perfectly capable of using fear as a reminder to consciously guide your thoughts without letting it take control of your life.

Of course, it may take significant time and effort to develop a positive outlook if you’re accustomed to guarding against potential threats. But guess what…it can be done.

Anytime the first thoughts to cross your mind are more in alignment with fear than joy, simply release them and keep searching for the light.  The light is always there, even in the darkest of times, but you must be willing to find it and give it your undivided attention.

You are destined to live happily and fearlessly. And you will do so as long as your thoughts do not resist it.

Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.

    

It is comforting to hold onto the ideals that we learned as children: good triumphs over evil, wonderful things come to good people, bad people will be penalized, everything works out for those who make the right choices, etc.  But is any of this true?  I mean—it happens; but not always.  So, what are we left to think when the opposite of these ideals is staring us in the face?

I read a blog yesterday in which the author expressed concern about bad things happening to good people and good things happening to bad people.  His friend, Alyssa, was a caring person who died at 25 after suffering from cancer.  His friend Ethan, a lifelong criminal, lives the “good life” and has never served a day in jail despite making millions by taking advantage of the elderly and the vulnerable.

I hate to acknowledge it, but I’ve seen more than my share of Aslyssas and Ethans.  If you look around, it’s tough to deny that bad things happen to “good people” and good things happen to “bad people.”  Although I usually try to avoid the frustration of trying to rationalize things that seem unfair, I couldn’t help but consider this perplexity from a Law of Attraction perspective.

My understanding is that Law of Attraction responds to the vibration of our thoughts, not to our actions.  In other words, someone who is considered a good person by society may harbor very negative or limiting beliefs.  Sure, that person may be thoughtful, caring, law-abiding, and generous; but that doesn’t tell us anything about the thoughts and beliefs that determine their “point of attraction.”

By Law of Attraction, there is great potential for undesirable circumstances in the life of a kind, honorable person if he spends a great deal of time fearing errors that he may make, wondering if he is not quite good enough, obsessing about society’s ills, worrying about what could go wrong, working at a job he doesn’t like, trying to save a world that he sees as broken, protesting things that he doesn’t agree with, tirelessly striving to live up to the expectations of peers, etc.  This person is likely to be held in a very positive light by society, but his thoughts are attracting a complete lack of well-being.  Instead focusing on the good, this person unknowingly puts too much of his attention on what he does not want.

What we see from the outside looking in is a person who is compassionate, caring, concerned, loving, pleasant, and considerate.  It will seem unfair when he experiences unfortunate trials and tribulations in his life.  It is always sad to see bad things happen to someone who has great intentions.    However, the Universe is only responding to each person’s thoughts and beliefs—not what they’ve actually done.

The easiest way to attract what you do not want is to give your primary attention to it.  The intentions may be good, but the result is not likely to be what you’ve bargained for.  Why?  Because the deeply held, subconscious beliefs are usually:  I’m vulnerable, I see helplessness all around me, so many things are not right, life is overwhelming, things can go wrong at any minute, the world is full of sadness, I have imperfections, I’m afraid of how XYZ might affect me, there is not sufficient order, I’m at risk.  The world is full of wonderful things, yet these beliefs show a disproportionate awareness of the negatives.  This results in attracting circumstances that rouse a greater lack of contentment, health, clarity, safety, and ultimate well-being.  A good person—maybe so.  A person who has a positive point of attraction—maybe not.

The one thing that may seem even more unfair than bad things happening to good people is good things happening to “bad people.”  In many cases, “bad people” have just as many poor beliefs as “good people.”  And they live lives that, even if it isn’t apparent to you or me, are every bit as difficult.  However, there are instances where the opposite is obviously true.   Most of us cringe at the site of drug lords, mafia bosses, con artists, dead beat parents, and other lowly members of society who live a life filled with things that others long for.  Like Ethan, many of these people become millionaires, marry their trophy wife/spouse, remain in good health, live in mansions, and spend their entire lives doing whatever they please without ever facing the consequences.  They seem to be eluding all of the traps that are in place to stop such injustice.  It’s as if they are invincible.  How can such a person seem to live out their dreams while so many good people struggle through life?

Again, it is interesting to look at this scenario from a Law of Attraction perspective.  The fact that a person is not abiding by society’s rules does not tell us anything about his/her thoughts.  We judge people by our estimation of their value to society.  However, the Universe is only responding to the vibration of our thoughts.

If a con artist who rips off elderly people is living his ideal life, you and I may see him as trash.  However, his deeply held beliefs may include: I’m capable of great success, I’m free, I’m smart, I completely believe in myself, my life is destined to be wonderful no matter what, I can do anything, life is wonderful.  That mentality is what it takes to attract what you want.

This is very hard for many people to accept.  We want so badly to see that good overcomes evil and that righteousness will lead us to great happiness.  We want to see what we believe is fair, thus it feels like the worst possible injustice to see evidence of the opposite.  So, how do you deal with such a thing?

I can’t tell anyone else how to deal with this, but I’ve chosen what works for me.  I release my tendency to judge others.  Not because they don’t deserve it, but because it lowers my vibration and causes me to attract what I don’t want.  I also seek to learn a lesson from everything and everyone.  Even a person who you perceive as bad may have a lesson to teach you—if you’re willing to learn.  From a good person who is dying young, I may learn to live in the moment and stop worrying about the future.  From a bad person who is living in joy, I may learn that anything is possible.  By putting those lessons together, you can become the person that you want to be.  You can be good in every way that is important to you AND live a life that is full of whatever treasures enhance your days on this Earth.

Love yourself, relax more often, appreciate your life, have a conscious awareness of all the good in the world, focus on what feels good, help others by sharing a positive outlook, and learn a lesson from any & every thing.

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Nea Justice

Nea is a Transformational Life Coach whose mission is to help you love your life.

If you desire the “good life” and you want to know how Nea can help you attain it, contact her now.